Why I stop expecting about crushes and Men

This post is not about hating men since I still have a father and male friends. If I could rewind back my life in choice of friends. How I wish I could have chosen well. If I knew what the bible was all about then I could have change and stop right there. The belief of having "someone" or rather the need of having a boyfriend immediately. My eyes were opened to the need of men. My high school circle of friends keep on talking about men like its some form of requirement that need to be posses immediately. Because when you do not have a boyfriend as if you are different. To admit choosing my boyfriend during that time just depend on fleeting feelings. A feeling of  happiness that is just short lived. Then I went to college and went on blind dates to find the one. Finding someone has become my ultimate goal. I thought it would complete me and stop the feeling of needing someone. At my early highs school days I was already trained to meet men and talk to them. With the culture that my circle of friends has established I thought I was in the right group. I only realized that the need of men in my life will be a burden and will be a form of false short lived idolatry.

I lately figure it all out when I experienced heartbreak and I made a slow realization that men that we meet cannot be perfectly as we want them to be. We think that every man we meet is the "THE ONE" we do not realized that we are just getting ahead of ourselves and putting ourselves in a mode where we love to stab ourselves because of false expectations.

After a hard breakup I searched why do girls expect too much from men who are also mortals with different feelings. We look on self help books to understand men and understand everything what the world would explain us and we set our expectations on men and treat them as idols.

In the end I have put up an idol in my life that I have forget to think about myself and most of GOD. Like I said I have been in a group of young women who idolize MEN and all about sex. I was at the age of learning with the high school friends I am with. I do not want to point fingers at my circle because I also made a mistake of  not thinking. If I have known a dedicated christian woman during that time I could have save myself from heartache.


It is better to take refuge in the LORD than to trust in man. -psalm 118:8




It all came down in a point where I have to stop and see the scripture and I know how hard this would be. But when I read and research about false idols..... MEN ARE INCLUDED.... God have to teach me lessons to open my mind. My mind was so confused because at the time I was reading the word of God... And again I  have a crush. But it all started to go in a different direction. That's when I realized the bible passage that keeps on popping when I read the bible. I suddenly realized that God wants me to abandon this false god of idolizing men which just hurt my feelings and gives the false sense of completeness. To be honest it took a lot of time for me and my mind to adopt this scripture. So I decided to focus on other things and not in men. But to focus my mind and time attending church and Sunday school.

Currently I am now focused with my professional work and attending Sunday School.

If there is one advice I could tell myself earlier ... DO NOT PUT YOUR TRUST TOO MUCH WITH MEN BUT RATHER WITH THE LORD....

I have written this in my blog so that more women would realized the real answer why we get hurt by men who failed to complete us and give us more heartaches that we do not not intend to received. If you are in a relationship just love enough... but love GOD... never abandon the real love ...

A friend have told me that this verse can be seen in the middle of the bible.......

Do not get your hearts or hopes up with mortal men but rather learn from my experience...

Seek God and trust that in time the man that you are waiting for.... 

Pray to God to help you accept his word and his scripture and you will be free from this Idolatry... You may still have crushes but your mind and heart will be ok without someone and you will not  expect too much... 

I wrote this blog for women who are in a break up or moving on phase....


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God Bless ladies